[hackerspaces] How to deal with this kinds of arrasemenr

[Arclight]

Well, if you want to have nice things, you have to keep the space nice.
The first step would be for someone to privately talk to this individual
and let them know they are getting out of hand. Don't drop hints, don't be
ambiguous, and do this in person, not e-mail or over the phone.This should
be sufficient if we're talking someone who is not crazy.

If this doesn't do it, subsequent warnings can come in the form of their
key not working, and some large dudes having any further discussions
outside the space in the parking lot. The language can be rather less
polite if necessary.

Don't ever play games like "trying to keep the weirdo guy away from the
girls" or other passive-aggressive BS. If you don't trust them  to be in
your space unsupervised, they should not be in the space in the first
place.  Whether they are useful to your space in other ways is not the
issue here. Someone will step up to replace what you lost, but you can't
replace trust.


We don't a new study in post-modern gender roles among computer
professionals to know what basic manners are supposed to look like.

Arclight
23b Shop



On Mon, Jan 27, 2014 at 7:59 AM, Florencia Edwards <floev22 at gmail.com>wrote:

> Hi all. On our hackerspaces there is this person very active in the
> community of older age (60ish), who started giving presents to a 26 year
> old staff member and asking her to report when she got home because he
> worried somehing would happen to her. Than he sent an email saying he was
> in love with this member and that he had expectations ,but all was lost
> when he found out she had a boyfriend. The staff member told him she wasnt
> intrested and to please keep distance, respectfuly. After that he kept
> sending emails saying that he needed this staff memers attention to keep
> proactive in the maker community. He sent another present
> This staff memer is tired of this, is doing an ignore strategy but this
> person insists a lot. Also the conmunity at the hackersoace love him and
> learn a lot from him so its difficult to just ban.
>
> What do you recomend for this? How can communicate with ths person so he
> stops bothering the staff? Do you consider his behavior arrasement?
>
> Ill really appreceate answers
>
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