[hackerspaces] How to deal with this kinds of arrasemenr

[Dave]

I'm considering adding "Don't be an asshole!" to the top of our small list
of rules.


On Mon, Jan 27, 2014 at 1:21 PM, Arclight <arclight at gmail.com> wrote:

> Well, if you want to have nice things, you have to keep the space nice.
> The first step would be for someone to privately talk to this individual
> and let them know they are getting out of hand. Don't drop hints, don't be
> ambiguous, and do this in person, not e-mail or over the phone.This should
> be sufficient if we're talking someone who is not crazy.
>
> If this doesn't do it, subsequent warnings can come in the form of their
> key not working, and some large dudes having any further discussions
> outside the space in the parking lot. The language can be rather less
> polite if necessary.
>
> Don't ever play games like "trying to keep the weirdo guy away from the
> girls" or other passive-aggressive BS. If you don't trust them  to be in
> your space unsupervised, they should not be in the space in the first
> place.  Whether they are useful to your space in other ways is not the
> issue here. Someone will step up to replace what you lost, but you can't
> replace trust.
>
>
> We don't a new study in post-modern gender roles among computer
> professionals to know what basic manners are supposed to look like.
>
> Arclight
> 23b Shop
>
>
>
> On Mon, Jan 27, 2014 at 7:59 AM, Florencia Edwards <floev22 at gmail.com>wrote:
>
>> Hi all. On our hackerspaces there is this person very active in the
>> community of older age (60ish), who started giving presents to a 26 year
>> old staff member and asking her to report when she got home because he
>> worried somehing would happen to her. Than he sent an email saying he was
>> in love with this member and that he had expectations ,but all was lost
>> when he found out she had a boyfriend. The staff member told him she wasnt
>> intrested and to please keep distance, respectfuly. After that he kept
>> sending emails saying that he needed this staff memers attention to keep
>> proactive in the maker community. He sent another present
>> This staff memer is tired of this, is doing an ignore strategy but this
>> person insists a lot. Also the conmunity at the hackersoace love him and
>> learn a lot from him so its difficult to just ban.
>>
>> What do you recomend for this? How can communicate with ths person so he
>> stops bothering the staff? Do you consider his behavior arrasement?
>>
>> Ill really appreceate answers
>>
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