[hackerspaces] Leadership abusing powers. Bullying. Extraordinary General Meetings.

[JB Zurn]

Even this email thread is exhausting. If I had to listen to this at an
organization I would have quit already.

I'm sorry, I understand how it feels when people don't like you. I had few
friends as a child. I finally figured out it was because people didn't like
being around me. So I did 2 things 1) I stopped subjecting people to a
situation that made them uncomfortable  (I left them alone), and 2) I
slowly learned what of my obnoxious behaviors was upsetting them, and
slowly changed them. Not because I was wrong, or they were wrong, but
because making people uncomfortable is mean.

If I insist on doing stuff that makes people uncomfortable, -I- am the one
who is being mean.

Food for thought.

On Sun, Feb 22, 2015, 12:28 PM Mark Rosenblitt-Janssen <
dreamingforward at gmail.com> wrote:

> > But more importantly, it's all so unnecessary. Why were you still arguing
> > about this in the first place, three emails later? It's such a pointless
> > argument about a tiny objection that can't possibly have been something
> you
> > cared that much about. If you had just said "sure fine whatever", the
> whole
> > issue goes away.
>
> The reason is this:  everyone has their own little point of power upon
> which the rest their identity.  For some, it's religion, for others
> it's evolution.  Women know it well, because men have been
> establishing the points of "truth" within the otherwise boundlessness
> of (pre)existence to rest their soul on or using their strength to
> establish it by fiat since time immemorial.  You simply didn't notice
> the issue, presumably because your point of power is shared by a
> million people.  The issue of using the pronoun "it" appears to be
> (one of) Peter's.
>
> A better strategy for Peter though is neither silence, nor frivolous
> rebellions to get power:  it's to prove himself more capable in the
> arenas in which the hackerspace's mission believes.  This is good
> advice generally, since the issue of power is ongoing.
>
> Marxos
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