[hackerspaces] Leadership abusing powers. Bullying. Extraordinary General Meetings.

Arclight arclight at gmail.com
Fri Feb 20 23:28:36 CET 2015

Also, if I read the links you sent correctly, it sounds like they
already banned you. At this point, I would definitely take the advice
of "go find new people" to heart. This is a lost cause, and fighting
it will only consume energy you could be putting towards projects. Not
fun, but the most productive course of action.


On Fri, Feb 20, 2015 at 2:25 PM, matt <matt at nycresistor.com> wrote:
> Hell,
>    I have my own experience with this.  At a space that will remain
> nameless, I had some folks begin to spread some rumours and lies and the
> sort behind my back because they didn't like me or who even knows why.  At
> that point I made the call...   this space is not a community I want to be a
> part of.  There are toxic members, and as long as they are here this
> community will never be one I am comfortable being a part of.  That meant I
> ended up doing a lot of my hacking the way I did years and years ago...
> alone in my apt.
>    It's a shite state of affairs, but if a community tolerates toxic
> membership there is not much you can do.  Fighting toxic membership is a
> losing battle.  It takes far more effort to fight them than it does for them
> to fight you, and you will end up wishing you hadn't in the end.
>    I agree with Chris, cut your losses and move on.  That doesn't mean
> necessarily you have to hack in your apt alone.  It might be as simple as
> following the hackerspaces design patterns, and finding 4 good folks to hack
> with and starting your own space.  There's nothing wrong with a diversity of
> smaller hackerspaces rather than some uniform monolith megaspace.
>    Sorry people weren't awesome.  =/
> -Matt
> On Fri, Feb 20, 2015 at 5:19 PM, Arclight <arclight at gmail.com> wrote:
>> An understated response is always 100X more effective than a long,
>> emotional one. If for some reason I didn't just move on from a
>> situation like this, I would do the following:
>> 1. Determine if there is anyone who cares and can make a difference
>> 2. Privately speak to those people. Do it in a business-like manner
>> and without a 30 minute story. Just a simple "I feel like a couple of
>> our folks are stepping over the line and making me uncomfortable. What
>> should I do?" Get their feedback and/or buy-in.
>> 3. Privately speak to the people you think are the problem. Often
>> times, the people who relish in passive-aggressive behaviour can be
>> set straight by a private chat if it's done in a business-like way.
>> Either that, or they'll totally lose their shit and think you're going
>> to kill them. Whatever happens, the matter will be resolved.
>> 4. Consider that there may not be a personality fit here and that
>> there are more productive things you could be doing rather than trying
>> to fit a culture that isn't healthy. You can always walk away and come
>> back later when things have imploded and you can be part of the
>> rebuilding.
>> 5. Whatever you do, do not send a long, personal e-mail to the org's
>> general mailing list. No matter how in-the-right you may be, you'll
>> come across as a crazy cat lady and it really serves no constructive
>> purpose.
>> Just my USD$.02 from having had to deal with a few messy membership
>> issues.
>> Arclight
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