[hackerspaces] That one person...

[john arclight]

Another way to help this problem is for other people to take some
initiative. Your friend certainly has a lot more justification for
taking control of everything at the space if nobody else is stepping
up. Get some people to take on a new project, hold a weekly/monthly
meeting of some kind with a bunch of people. Strong personalities can
often be "diluted" down by the presence and action of more people.

If they don't like new people doing the cleaning and shelf building or
decide that the Linux meeting with 20 hackers is too loud, then, they
might also decide to move on if it's that disagreeable to them. And
sometimes that's what an organization needs to grow.


Arclight


On Wed, Mar 2, 2011 at 9:02 AM, William Macfarlane <wmacfarl at gmail.com> wrote:
> It's also important to talk to other people in the space because they
> might think that they're the only ones who feel bothered and might,
> therefore, not want to say anything unless you start the conversation.
>
> On Wed, Mar 2, 2011 at 11:52 AM, Deech <deech at ninjacow.net> wrote:
>> I agree with the previous posters. If this person is being too dominating,
>> is he even aware he's doing it?
>>
>> Generally speaking, as nerdy hackertypes, we're all prone to various degrees
>> of social interaction issues.
>>
>> You say he's doing good solid work in the space and he's helping people, so
>> he's obviously making an effort for the space so perhaps he just needs to
>> find out what he's doing wrong so he can correct it.
>> Many of us builder types will just keep barreling forward to get a project
>> done or do things the way we think are right and will stay oblivious to
>> issues in our wake.
>> Hell, I know I do it myself. I just have to hope my friends can understand
>> that I really don't mean any harm and will respect me enough to take me
>> aside and let me know when I'm screwing up instead of just leaving me to
>> hang until I unwittingly piss off the people I care about around me.
>>
>> So, I guess my point is, just talk to the guy. He may not even be aware of
>> what he's doing.
>>
>> Also talk to the other hackers in the space, like the poster above
>> mentioned, make sure that other folks are noticing it and agree with your
>> viewpoint. It's easy to sometimes perceive things in a certain light based
>> on your own bias or mindset and maybe others will have a different angle on
>> it. If other people in the space do agree with you, then get them to talk to
>> him with you, or get the help of leaders in your space, if you have them.
>>
>> -Deech
>>
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