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<div class="moz-cite-prefix">On 21/02/15 01:22, Brendan Halliday
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<div><span
style="font-family:Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;font-size:13px">Peter,</span></div>
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<div><span
style="font-family:Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;font-size:13px">The
tone you took combined with your cherrypicked examples of
your interpretation of 'good' behaviour set several red
flags. </span></div>
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<div><span
style="font-family:Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;font-size:13px">I've
been helping out and organising at many community
organisations over the years and it's been a constant that
the members that are the most toxic and most dangerous to
the community are the ones who:</span></div>
<div><span
style="font-family:Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;font-size:13px">1.
Must always have the last word. Always.</span></div>
<div><span
style="font-family:Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;font-size:13px">2.
Disagree with the stated (or sometimes poorly communicated)
expected conduct of the group</span></div>
<div><span
style="font-family:Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;font-size:13px">3.
Generally agitate for their own goals (which usually do not
match up with the organisations')</span><span
style="font-family:Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;font-size:13px"> while
attempting to remain buddies with the rest of the
membership.</span></div>
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<div><span
style="font-family:Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;font-size:13px">So
I spent less than a minute reading your links and came
across this:</span></div>
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/On Tuesday, February 3, 2015 at 10:23:53 AM UTC, Peter
Meadows wrote:/ </span><br
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<span
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<span
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/I don't have time to go around asking everyone which
pronouns they </span><br
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prefer! <br>
> <br>
> I think it's funny to call people 'it'. If it upsets
them, it can come <br>
> and talk to me and I'll try to help it develop a
sense of humour. (and <br>
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if it really can't do this, I'll stop calling it 'it' in
public). / </span><br>
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What's wrong with this? I said that my first preference would be to
try and explain the humour, and that it's not nasty. And if that
could not be done, I would stop doing it.<br>
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<div><span
style="font-family:Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;font-size:13px">To
me, the links you have provided have indicated that the LHS
executive have acted very clearly and with considerable
cohesion on this matter. It's also clear that they are
familiar with the Geek Social Fallacies and do not wish them
to rule their space.</span></div>
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<div><span
style="font-family:Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;font-size:13px">From
all indications you have provided, I can't see any </span><span
style="font-size:12.8000001907349px">actions as bullying or
seeming to be motivated by hidden reasons. </span></div>
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<div><span style="font-size:12.8000001907349px">If anything, you
should move on and perhaps re-evaluate how you handle social
interactions - because if you're not the unconstructive
member that you're portraying, then you need to work on
communicating it clearer.</span></div>
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