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I have to agree with Digimer. It doesn't matter how much value the offending member adds-- it's negated by his persistent unwanted behavior.
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If he doesn't like being told to back off, and quits, you lost one member. If you do nothing, you risk losing the other member and developing a reputation you really don't want... which could lead to other losses.
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Randy
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Tarrant Makers
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<br />> On January 27, 2014 at 10:27 AM Digimer <lists@alteeve.ca> wrote:
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<br />> On 27/01/14 10:59 AM, Florencia Edwards wrote:
<br />> > Hi all. On our hackerspaces there is this person very active in the
<br />> > community of older age (60ish), who started giving presents to a 26 year
<br />> > old staff member and asking her to report when she got home because he
<br />> > worried somehing would happen to her. Than he sent an email saying he
<br />> > was in love with this member and that he had expectations ,but all was
<br />> > lost when he found out she had a boyfriend. The staff member told him
<br />> > she wasnt intrested and to please keep distance, respectfuly. After that
<br />> > he kept sending emails saying that he needed this staff memers attention
<br />> > to keep proactive in the maker community. He sent another present
<br />> > This staff memer is tired of this, is doing an ignore strategy but this
<br />> > person insists a lot. Also the conmunity at the hackersoace love him and
<br />> > learn a lot from him so its difficult to just ban.
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<br />> > What do you recomend for this? How can communicate with ths person so he
<br />> > stops bothering the staff? Do you consider his behavior arrasement?
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<br />> > Ill really appreceate answers
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<br />> This kind of behaviour is one of the biggest reasons women can feel
<br />> uncomfortable in IT communities. People should be able to feel
<br />> comfortable being themselves without always feeling like they have to
<br />> check themselves to make sure they don't seem flirtatious or interested
<br />> beyond simple friendship.
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<br />> This member needs to be made aware that he must leave her alone
<br />> immediately or else get removed from the community. He showed his
<br />> interest, he was rejected, he needs to move on. Now.
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<br />> --
<br />> Digimer
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