yup... but anxiety is so bad that gets chest/heart problems. 10 years ago I had to pick her up from hospital after a collapsed lung supposedly in part from severe and long term anxiety. :( brings tears mentioning it. Makes me sad.<br>
<br>AH! one other biggie for me to mention... then I'll stop...<br>I really hope people realize the difference between depression and sadness.<br>Depression is a "slowed" <u><i>system</i></u> (kind of) <br>Sadness is a qualitative measure of what we call emotion.<br>
<br>If someone is clinically depressed - please please please don't try to help them by cheering up what you think is sadness.<br>Depression can make everything good or bad into a "sad" thing.<br>Depression is a condition or state of the neuro system. it's the see-saw bottomed out on one side with noone on the other to saw your see.<br>
<br>My advice is to listen listen listen - but in an environment where the depression doesn't live. (try to get them out of the house to talk about it)<br>But listen not too much as to not encourage brooding.<br>Relate relate relate if you can - or ask questions to relate interest.<br>
Don't tell stories of depression that end up in who's been saddest before (surprisingly easy to fall into)<br><br>and for myself... when the world is just over and folding my hand at the table - I just don't trust or believe anything I feel.<br>
Saved myself a couple of times through some insane parts of life that way. <br>Had a notebook that I titled "NEVER GIVE UP" onto the cover and wrote in my thinking as best I could so that I could see it in a different context than just free floainting in my brilliant genius mind ... I guess it was just journaling as they call it.<br>
<br>I've once been in an honestly dangerous situation of suicidal thoughts and i was scared - I was booted from my mothers house while visiting on easter for something trivial like forgetting to pick up rainchecks for a sale for canned veggies at a drug store (i kid you not) and had to leave under threat of involving police... be kind there - she's an amazing woman but has some probs - I had to walk the out their neighbor hood and ended up starting to smoke agian after 3 months quit. walked 3 miles down swamp sided old highway outside of New Orleans and devised a plan.<br>
<br>Plan was this... I'm going to walk to the phsych hospital 5 miles away and if I still am capable of ceasing life - I'm gonna check in... because I dont trust those thoughts. If when walking past there I'm honestly out of that consuming thought (suicide is a very consuming and relapsing thought pattern) and focused on going somewhere to do something - well i just pass it on. Ended up eating all you can eat steak at a truckstop (eek!) with my brother and his crew of crazies after setting up cars for stunts in hollywood films. (he has his dream job!)<br>
<br>I've been depressed sooo manh times myself... I am truely and expert - but onlly of my own psyche and disposition.<br>We are however all human and hold common always true humman needs... <br> <br>prolly said enuff... sorry<br>
gnight all and if anyone relates and needs an ear and voice feel free to message me. <br><br> I haven't been there... but I've faced the same general direction.<br><div class="gmail_quote"><br><br><br><br>On Sat, Nov 26, 2011 at 1:38 AM, Ryan/baslisks <span dir="ltr"><<a href="mailto:baslisks@gmail.com">baslisks@gmail.com</a>></span> wrote:<br>
<blockquote class="gmail_quote" style="margin:0 0 0 .8ex;border-left:1px #ccc solid;padding-left:1ex;">does she exercise too?<br>
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